A couple of weeks ago it was one of those weeks where I had multiple work events, multiple community events and multiple kids’ events.. I seen another community leader at 2 of the 5 community events that week and she said “Wow, you always have it together and able to show up and engage in everything – You have such a balance” As I cracked up immediately letting her know I do NOT have a balance, I am just in the places I need to be for this week..
So that begs the question is there really a Work/Life balance?!?! In my life there isn’t a such thing as a balance there is a such thing as prioritization!
Here are a few of my lessons that I live by:
- Create daily rituals to give me some sense of balance – I start each day with prayer – either solo (if I am not dropping the kids off in the morning) or with our kids on the way to school. Our kids start each day with prayer depending on the parent they are with, God is our foundation and we know we are truly blessed and highly favored. So we instill that in our kids everyday… Then all heck breaks loose during the day… At the end of each evening I have a nightcap (sometimes just water on the rocks) and conversation with my hubby. We try not to talk about work but instead just random stuff once the kids go to bed like what we will do once we win the lotto. Those late night conversations end with the best goal setting and resolutions to problems.
- Use my support system – If I did not have my parents, neither my husband or I would be able to work the way we do or be as successful as we are. My parents were blessed to retire early so they have watched our kids from day one. THANK GOD. They pick them up from school, take them to events (we meet them there) and everything in between, they are heaven sent!
- Do not miss kids events (or the thing that is most important to you) – Even if that means I have to go to a baseball game and a gala all in the same day and I have to sacrifice someone else doing my hair and make-up and not having time to go get a manicure but only time to put polish on at home because I only have 30 mins to an hour to get ready. Then so be it…
For me the biggest thing is just setting boundaries and rules about my time and the things you are unwilling to scarafic. I have worked hard enough in my career and been blessed to work for great leaders who I have had transparent conversations about what’s important to me in order to continue to show up everyday and be successful. Which for me no matter what the most important thing is getting quality time with my family.
Do you believe there is a such thing as work/life balance?